Confused

Hey Everyone,

Well I hope everyone had a wonderful week and is looking forward to an amazing weekend. I can't wait for this weekend because its Hayleigh's Last Soccer game of the season, her awards picnic and her birthday party!!  This makes me extremely happy but also a little sad.  Time is going by so fast I remember the day I saw the digital read out of Pregnant and extreme panic set in... But she is one of the amazing things God has giving me, besides Gods loves, my wonderful husband, an amazing church and great family and friends.

However on that note..I am a bit confused or maybe just a bit disappointed.. Maybe I am just too nice.  I really try hard to go out of my way to help everyone and be the best possible friend.. From offering to babysit, to rearranging my schedule to be there for you, and even just doing a lot of party planning and stuff that is my business for friends even for free or discounted.. I am really honestly really tired of bending backwards and being so nice and in return to have some friends not be honest with me, or not help out in return when I ask for something..even when I ask you a month and half in advance. I mean I want to continue to be that amazing friend but I guess I will just have to choose who to be that kind of friend too .. because some people don't know what it means or how it works to be a friend.. Its really pulling at my heart strings to be a good Christian and do what is right but at the same time how can I keep getting walked on with out pulling away.  On another note I do have  some amazing friends who would help me no matter what and be there for me..which I am truly blessed by them and They know who they are and I will continue to be the best friend possible to them.

Could use some guidance on how to deal with this situation, because I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but at the same time..I want to tell them that ..well that's just not cool.

On a whole other topic... RSVP's  what happened to this common courtesy.. As I plan parties, and weddings for people and even Hayleigh's Birthday party.  How come time and time again-- people either don't rsvp and then show up or they rsvp and then don't come... Like I thought this was still a common courtesy that people should do.  Even now days all you have to do is send the self addressed stamped envelope back in the mail, or send an email, or text message??? Why don't we do this... I am on a mission to get people to start being better RSVP people... Its just a nice way to show someone you care, even if its regrets-- Because they took the time to invite you and spent money on you.. that's an over head cost.   At most events it isn't just a couple dollars, its from a favor, to needing an extra table, which will need linens, centerpeices, chairs, silverwear, space all of these cost add up...SO I am begging you-- RSVP even if its a NO it can save that person money and we all work hard for our money.. Also If you RSVP that you are coming..you should come..unless there is an emergancy and in the case of an emergancy you should call the host and appoligize and be honest with them about what happened.

Till Next Time,
Ashley