Hey Everyone,
Well I hope everyone had a wonderful week and is looking forward to an amazing weekend. I can't wait for this weekend because its Hayleigh's Last Soccer game of the season, her awards picnic and her birthday party!! This makes me extremely happy but also a little sad. Time is going by so fast I remember the day I saw the digital read out of Pregnant and extreme panic set in... But she is one of the amazing things God has giving me, besides Gods loves, my wonderful husband, an amazing church and great family and friends.
However on that note..I am a bit confused or maybe just a bit disappointed.. Maybe I am just too nice. I really try hard to go out of my way to help everyone and be the best possible friend.. From offering to babysit, to rearranging my schedule to be there for you, and even just doing a lot of party planning and stuff that is my business for friends even for free or discounted.. I am really honestly really tired of bending backwards and being so nice and in return to have some friends not be honest with me, or not help out in return when I ask for something..even when I ask you a month and half in advance. I mean I want to continue to be that amazing friend but I guess I will just have to choose who to be that kind of friend too .. because some people don't know what it means or how it works to be a friend.. Its really pulling at my heart strings to be a good Christian and do what is right but at the same time how can I keep getting walked on with out pulling away. On another note I do have some amazing friends who would help me no matter what and be there for me..which I am truly blessed by them and They know who they are and I will continue to be the best friend possible to them.
Could use some guidance on how to deal with this situation, because I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but at the same time..I want to tell them that ..well that's just not cool.
On a whole other topic... RSVP's what happened to this common courtesy.. As I plan parties, and weddings for people and even Hayleigh's Birthday party. How come time and time again-- people either don't rsvp and then show up or they rsvp and then don't come... Like I thought this was still a common courtesy that people should do. Even now days all you have to do is send the self addressed stamped envelope back in the mail, or send an email, or text message??? Why don't we do this... I am on a mission to get people to start being better RSVP people... Its just a nice way to show someone you care, even if its regrets-- Because they took the time to invite you and spent money on you.. that's an over head cost. At most events it isn't just a couple dollars, its from a favor, to needing an extra table, which will need linens, centerpeices, chairs, silverwear, space all of these cost add up...SO I am begging you-- RSVP even if its a NO it can save that person money and we all work hard for our money.. Also If you RSVP that you are coming..you should come..unless there is an emergancy and in the case of an emergancy you should call the host and appoligize and be honest with them about what happened.
Till Next Time,
Ashley
Friday, April 15, 2011
Monday, April 4, 2011
Amazing Weekend!
Hey Everyone,
Well even though it was hard to leave my three year old at home with her granny, Paul and I needed a weekend away. Not just any weekend either. We were blessed with a weekend with our church at the Frio River Pecan Farm. The place was beautiful with rows of pecan trees, the river running through it and the deer would come up close to the cabins.
Well we were a little hesitant to go on the weekend at first but after running into our pastors and another couple from church at the yogurt place and having a wonderful conversation with them, we decided to just put our fears behind us and go for it. We were not sure what to expect and were a bit afraid to open up about our marriage to a bunch of strangers. Wow were we wrong.
We had an amazing weekend learning and growing as a couple. We went in thinking we had a great marriage and nothing really wrong with it. However, through the weekend we both realized things we could work on and not that we had a bad relationship, but there is just something different with us. I can't really explain it, but its almost like we fell in love all over again. Yes we have only been married a year and half but we have been together for 3 and half and sometimes the everyday life gets in the way. We not only became closer to each other this weekend, but we grew and got closer to God. One thing that did hit me hard was the fact that I don't wake up and Tell God good morning and start my day with him. Which I should because I am alive and here one more day because of him. I usually was so concerned with checking my phone and my facebook before I even get out of bed. So now I say Good morning and Pray before I check my phone. Nothing is more important than God.
You all also know my daily struggles with things, and this weekend was so easy. The whole weekend I just felt blessed and amazed to be where I am in my life. I didn't have to force myself to be happy or concentrate on anything..I wasn't stressed and I had no anxiety.. it was like I was a different person. Which I still feel this way. I know stress is going to enter back into my life, but this weekend helped me find new and different ways to cope with things. All the time to reflect and pray was just what I needed. Not to mention all the fun we had. We got to know several amazing couples and as we talked to each couple they all had something we could learn from and we look forward to getting to know them more. I think the key to keeping things in perspective is keeping them in our lives and hanging out with them. If we surround ourself with great people than we don't have to worry about the other people trying to bring us down. Not to mention going to church Sunday after getting to know everyone was a whole new experience in its self. Yes Paul got to go with me and normally its just me-- but to walk in and fill like family instead of a stranger was amazing.
Honestly some Sunday's I had to drag myself to church, not because I didn't love God or want to be there but because I would tell myself I could just watch it online and not feel awkward because I always have to sit alone while Paul is at work! Now I know I can always find someone I know to sit with even if he is not there. We were also letting things in between our relationship, like finishing a TV show, or checking facebook, or tired from work or Hayleigh. So it was great to put our relationship back in perspective that we need to make that time and that other stuff is not as important as spending time with the life partner God made for us. I am so excited and I feel like we are starting a new chapter and can't wait to see what God has in store for us!
Till Next time,
Ashleigh
Well even though it was hard to leave my three year old at home with her granny, Paul and I needed a weekend away. Not just any weekend either. We were blessed with a weekend with our church at the Frio River Pecan Farm. The place was beautiful with rows of pecan trees, the river running through it and the deer would come up close to the cabins.
Well we were a little hesitant to go on the weekend at first but after running into our pastors and another couple from church at the yogurt place and having a wonderful conversation with them, we decided to just put our fears behind us and go for it. We were not sure what to expect and were a bit afraid to open up about our marriage to a bunch of strangers. Wow were we wrong.
We had an amazing weekend learning and growing as a couple. We went in thinking we had a great marriage and nothing really wrong with it. However, through the weekend we both realized things we could work on and not that we had a bad relationship, but there is just something different with us. I can't really explain it, but its almost like we fell in love all over again. Yes we have only been married a year and half but we have been together for 3 and half and sometimes the everyday life gets in the way. We not only became closer to each other this weekend, but we grew and got closer to God. One thing that did hit me hard was the fact that I don't wake up and Tell God good morning and start my day with him. Which I should because I am alive and here one more day because of him. I usually was so concerned with checking my phone and my facebook before I even get out of bed. So now I say Good morning and Pray before I check my phone. Nothing is more important than God.
You all also know my daily struggles with things, and this weekend was so easy. The whole weekend I just felt blessed and amazed to be where I am in my life. I didn't have to force myself to be happy or concentrate on anything..I wasn't stressed and I had no anxiety.. it was like I was a different person. Which I still feel this way. I know stress is going to enter back into my life, but this weekend helped me find new and different ways to cope with things. All the time to reflect and pray was just what I needed. Not to mention all the fun we had. We got to know several amazing couples and as we talked to each couple they all had something we could learn from and we look forward to getting to know them more. I think the key to keeping things in perspective is keeping them in our lives and hanging out with them. If we surround ourself with great people than we don't have to worry about the other people trying to bring us down. Not to mention going to church Sunday after getting to know everyone was a whole new experience in its self. Yes Paul got to go with me and normally its just me-- but to walk in and fill like family instead of a stranger was amazing.
Honestly some Sunday's I had to drag myself to church, not because I didn't love God or want to be there but because I would tell myself I could just watch it online and not feel awkward because I always have to sit alone while Paul is at work! Now I know I can always find someone I know to sit with even if he is not there. We were also letting things in between our relationship, like finishing a TV show, or checking facebook, or tired from work or Hayleigh. So it was great to put our relationship back in perspective that we need to make that time and that other stuff is not as important as spending time with the life partner God made for us. I am so excited and I feel like we are starting a new chapter and can't wait to see what God has in store for us!
Till Next time,
Ashleigh
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